HB, just catching up on your thread. What a story. All I can say is keep your GAL and your changes. Give him space. He is going to act weird sometimes. I’m sure he has lots of feelings to go through, just like you. If what your FIL say is true and your ex wants to reconnect with you, you need lots of patience. Take it veeeery slooow. He is going to have his emotions and doubts. You need to be a prize that he will want to win.

My H also has lots of pride and is very stubborn. So, I can relate. It must not be easy for him to admit he made a mistake. So, your job is to give him lots of space and let him make his final decision on his own.

I can imagine how difficult it must be for you, to have your hopes up, and still not knowing how this is going to end. I would keep the expectation very low and just treat this dates and this contact like something new.

I haven’t read your entire thread, sorry. Did your ex have an OW?

M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state