Hi Paul19510,

I can really relate to your situation. I always look for the little signs, the unexpected contact or unexpected kindness. I do find that these things come upon giving him space and n/c. I guess we just have to look at these situations as hope that what we are doing is working, and as signs of hope for our R. I also wish that if my husband is just being nice for the sake of my son and not for our R, that he would just let me go so I can move on with my life. I also love to be a W and love the companionship that comes with marriage. Hang in there. What I find helps me is that on my good days, when I am feeling strong and confident, I write down my feelings and go back to them on my bad days. It reminds me to love and respect myself, and to remember what a good person I am, even if H can't see that right now. I wish you the best!


Me 48 H 46 S 11
M 2004
BD 8/13
H moved out 2/15
-live in the present, enjoy the beauty around and within you, explore your new future-