maybe a bit off the edge?

[ye21]

I heard/read somewhere that D should be a choice not a reaction.

beautiful... nothing to ad to what labug and dingo are telling you, they are giving you the key to all this..

The only thing I will say

"Early on, people encouraged me to think about who I am and what I can live with and what I can live without. At the time, things were so new to me that i couldn't imagine life without my wife. That I could never find someone else, etc. So I made the decision that I could live with anything as long as she came back. I don't know if that is the case anymore.

I don't know of I want to wait for months for her to come out of a fog only to have months/years of counseling before we are whole again. I don't see how I can really trust her without a long long time of close to perfect behavior from her. I don't know if I have ever seen her buckle down and do something because it's right or best in the long run - she has virtually always done what was easy at the time. I don't know I want a woman with these characteristics to be the mother of my children"


You are being impatient and not trusting, its time for you to trust that whatever happens it will be the best for you, basically this way of thinking is due to a need to fix this situation right now... and you know what?? you don't need to
you just need to enjoy this "vacation time" she gave you, not thinking about D papers or any other things, but to really enjoy right now without feeling guilty about it, she is enjoying and you have to enjoy as well, you both only will be able to talk properly one day after both of you enjoy this time by yourselves.

If she is being miserable you could not talk to her in the future...you know why? because it will show that her feelings are not stable, and you don't want that, whatever is the end you both need to use this time HOWEVER you want to use it.

As long as you don't refuge yourself in drugs or alcohol you will be absolutely fine, and trust me in some time you will see things differently. You can stay at home and avoid all contact with other humans because you are not happy that she left you, but what you are saying to the world and to yourself by doing that is: Hello everybody, my name is miserable, I hate myself, I never really liked the way I am, that's why I was acting up with all of you when I seem happy, the true is that I never accepted me, and I tough I could change the world because I felt in love, but I didn't felt in love because I tought I deserve it, but because I was desperate...

take those roots to change how you see yourself and how you accept yourself and then and only then, you will have recovered the most important relationship that you ever had.....


THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
we like you and respect you that's why we post here, pay us back bro and respect yourself a little more today, because you are not responsible for the mistakes other do, but for your own mistakes