I don't know that your zen is slipping, you live the reality of your H.

AJM, have you read ad's posts since the beginning? I believe her H is acting at the level he can but I'm not sure caring is included in that.

I'm not a spouse-basher, some people just don't have all the wiring connected properly.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss