Not being addressed by name for weeks, not having it mentioned when Happy Birthday was sung, etc., being a nonentity in her eyes, bugged me, so for me this was important. I also think it was good to show my annoyance.
Details? My son and I did not go to Italy over Christmas, as my daughter was upset with the idea and wanted him home (said the whole family should have discussed this earlier). He and I did go biking (Sweden had an above freezing Christmas) and did other small things though, so it was okay. The trip was postponed to early April, when he has vacation, and wife/daughter are still in school, so they cannot have objections.
I didn't have the stomach/b***s/courage for any fighting, and so sleep downstairs. This upset me a lot for a few days, but then I got used to it.
The divorce, just 45 days away now if all goes as announced, will hopefully change this, as we then share the kids, and so I will get to see my daughter more.
I spent my time organizing my music collection and now have a fancy audio player and headphones.
Went to a French meetup this morning (I am in the US), am going to a drum circle tonight, and will do a hike with my two bosses and a colleague tomorrow. It was nice to meet a bunch of charming French speakers today.
I am just letting the previously announced divorce come down the tracks at me. Why fight now? There will probably be plenty of potential for that as the year progresses.
Finally, your advice of being with people was good, and I enjoy it, but I still occasionally vacillate and withdraw and feel inadequate.
Enough.
Luke
M58, xW54 S22, D18 M 1984, D 2016 Living a new life.
