Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

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Dearest DXW,

First of all, I am so sorry to read of your situation and that you find yourself here. My heart goes out to you and your children - it made me cry to think of another person having to experience this pain and agony. But you couldn't have found a better place to land with all the support you have received and are going to receive during what is probably the worst time in your life. But walk with us, because together we can all share the burden by bringing our individual strengths, experiences, and advice while we share this journey. After all, life is really all about helping one another.

I was just having a down day myself, getting ready to sign a contract that will begin the D process when I decided to come here to post my feelings. Then I saw your thread and while it made me sad to know what you and your children have experienced to date, just seeing the incredible outpouring of support by the others masw me feel hopeful for us all. No matter the outcome.

Mine's not looking good at the moment, but I know we all have each others backs.

Listen to the advice, and go easy on yourself. Detachment is difficult and you will have days where it seems as though you've made it, then, BAM, you feel like you are starting at square one again. Been 9 months for me, but only in the last 2 have I felt like the backslides aren't as dramatic . . still cried and pleaded to God last night to give me a sign that I'll be alright...that I was losing faith, didn't understand why I had to go through this, but I was also very tired. So keep that in mind. And don't stuff it all in - find an appropriate place and time to release your pent up hurt anger, etc . . scream and cry in the car (on of my favorites). But rest, exercise and eat as healthy as you can, and enjoy time with your children, cherish them, and be the adult you want them to be when they grow up...

As for your H, he's not a well man, but that doesn't excuse him. Hard to grasp at times, have empathy for him, but don't let that be a reason to let him run roughshod over you and your kids. (Good you're in line with an attorney.) And IMHO, your children should not be subjected to the OW or her children at this point,either. What does that teach them?

My love and prayers to you DXW. We're here.