Yeah it's mind reading ... But I am not that emotionally involved in whatever w is doing right now... My thoughts are more along the lines of ..

"will I ever have another opportunity with w?.." .

.. "Will it be another year or more before I get that opportunity?.." ..

"Do I have to move on to he point of not caring at all before my w may want back in (like the swingers clip)?"...

"Is there anything I can do?"

So right now, as far as my w goes, I am trying different things and seeing what happens taking note and adjusting my behavior. I feel like I have tried no contact and it has not gotten me anywhere... If I need to just give it more time ... Well when I decide that I am done then time can do its thing...

In the mean time I am working on getting myself into a stable career ... I have been working a lot lately in two different jobs and increasing my savings so I can afford some time away to find something better. I want to be in a place where I could support my w if she came back...

She was the bigger money earner when she left, but she hates her job. She would like to go back to school but she can't afford to do that. I would like to be able to help her


Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)