With that being said, I've asked her to talk to her therapists about how we or I can generate more sparks like it used to be (been five plus years since we have had any real intimacy). Her responses have been that she has and that I might not like the answers.
Not sure I want to go through the rest of my life in a non-intimate and sexless relationship... But I love my W very much.
.... I am trying to stay faithful, but it seems that W being content with the ways things are is causing complacency as well. I don't want to be taken for granted...
First, you are either staying faithful or you are not, there is no "try" (to paraphrase Yoda).
But the thing that caught my eye was the first portion of the quote.
So, it suggests that she knows that the answer(s) she can give you are already as "bad" or worse than something that you have already expressed. Think about that for a moment and what you have expressed as a fear or as unacceptable.
It could be that her answer is something that she would find unacceptable if she were in your position.
Either way, she is in a "defensive" position because she won't share whatever the answer happens to be.
The Captain
Last sex: 04/06/1997 Last attempt: 11/11/1997 W Issues "No Means No" Declaration: 11/11/1997 W chooses to terminate sex 05/1998 I gained 60, then lost 85 pounds. Start running again (marathons)
