On to Divorce and still litigating...new life.

[FloydMan]

Thank Lost, AJM and DXW.
My d11 went to counselling on Thursday night. She said she will go again and liked the lady a lot, so that is very good. The girls are squabbling quite a bit lately. D11 gets to D15 a lot and that frustrates the older one. D11 is looking for attention while D15 has her own struggles. D15 still refuses to go to counselling so need to find another tactic to get her to try. D15 did open up to me and is frustrated that she feels responsible for D11 too much. Clearly resentment is starting in. I explained that I will do better in explaining to D11 that her sister needs a bit more space when she wants it. I told D15 I will also make sure D11 looks after herself a bit more after school before I get home from work. D15 said it is worse at their moms and D15 does everything to look after sister because mom is not home as much as me. Oh boy. I am glad she opened up to me, and told her she needs to open up to her mom as well because I cannot get involved in her home structure. Lots to look into and understand how I can make it better.
D15 also asked why she cannot be with me and her sister with her mom and vice-versa for the 50/50. I had to explain that the law won't allow the kids to be split apart. Not sure if I should have worded it that way, but it was all I had at the moment. These two girls used to be so close and loving toward each other. Clearly they have seen bad examples of interaction and separating from each other as a solution. Not cool and very sad. D15 should not carry the emotional weight, or responsibilities of her sister. gotta do my part to see that is mitigated. They just left now for their moms and I get them back Wed. Miss them already.