You know, your post stopped me from getting into it with her last night. She has been staying here most nights but with him I think other nights. So far to separate nights in last week. Her notes have said we should start figuring out the separation. But then she has not started talking about it when we are both here. I have avoided starting the conversation on that topic. I am letting her do it, as I normally would be the one to do it. I had it in my mind last night we would talk about budget and where she would stay last night. I was heading home with the intention of telling her she should stay elsewhere, but your post gave me pause. I came home, was nice, and social. She did not bring anything up. I am glad I did not bring it up. Thank you, I was geared up to. But I am trying to be patient. I am the caretaker and planner. Right now I have no plan which is uncomfortable for me. I want to plan, but am avoiding the urge.

She came home sick today, and I am not taking care of her as I would have in the past. I am the chef, and I am no longer buying the groceries with her in mind. So no longer buying her fav foods and just food for myself.

Thank you again


Me:36
Her:35
together 11yrs
M 7 1/2yrs
lived together 10yrs
2dogs 2cats
Mortgage on a house

bomb dropped 01/12/14
Separate bedrooms/W stays here some nights
I want to stay married