Good morning K. Thanks for the advice. Im not offended by what she said....it's just that there are plenty of people on this on this board alone who would love to be in the position to work on their marriage again....so its just a matter of not seein your blessings insfead of seeing the negatives...(i assume she's a WAS during their multiple seperations though) they just need the proper tools.

Well I emailed my H after tweaking it a bit and he responded with in 5 minutes:

"Good morning, I will be sure to get those things the paperwork back to you as soon as possible along with the paperwork for the divorce with you can look over and sign and get notorize as well.  . ... The car insurance. .. I will continue to help with that. ... As soon as I get these finances together as you know (school debt name) changed my account twice causing some problems, I will repay that loan. 
I hope you have a great weekend, take care!"


me: 30 H:30
tgthr:7 m:4
no kids
5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012
long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012
official BD: July 2013
nothing filed
1/1/14 I dropped the rope