bent not broken

[willbwell]

I do need to remember to let h talk today and STFU . listen and validate.
I suppose,
Next in line of order is splitting out finances.
I will ask if he has copies of all financials.
He had given me copies back in August.
I do have a checklist I prepared so I can ask, how about the CU account. It wasn't included back in Aug
we will need to get an appraisal of our home.
He will want to give me the house, but taxes alone annually will be appox 1/4 of what with an old pool. There will always be maintanenece. Maybe at some point I will have to sell.

8 years ago when we bought this house. We really wanted the house next door. Had put an offer. Woman selling wouldn't work with us on the major issues with the house that needed to be done, so we backed out of sale. Didn't know at the time,
Woman was a divorced mom of 3. She needed every penny.
It's like forshadowing to me!

ow talk- I know I have been advised to not give that space , or energy.
At issue is that stupid ow works under h and that is a big no-no in his CO. Maybe this has been my trump card and the reason h will act nice to me.
Really I doubt h would get any type of retribution. ow is "in luv" so she is not going to say anything. H is afraid I will let the cat out of the bag. Not that he would lose his job( or so it is said bosses should not date employees, but I know it to be a "good ole boys club" there is so much D there at his CO. T...I believe honestly in my heart that is why h wants D . so he can go date without feeling guilty. however, it doesn't matter to him what I think.

I want to know about ow, because of d who is developmentally delayed. She doesn't understand all this.
I know until we are D, he can't bring ow around d15.
I probably won't ever want d15 around ow, but I get no choice in that either.

d15 will never live independently. For her to live in a group home over her life time( after I can no longer provide care for her) and maybe even before then. She may WANT to go live in a group home independent of me. The costs will run around 1 million dollars. I kid you not. Assisted living like this is an easy 40,000 annually.
h is spending money doing la-di-da with ow, well that is his child's money.
therapy would have been a lot cheaper.