Here I Am Again!

[Missmygirl]

Planet, I want you to know I spent a large amount of time reading every one of your posts this week.

Last January, I confronted this OM in front of everyone of our friends while we were at a party being held at a night club. He and I almost exchanged blows. I made it very clear to him that he was not welcome in my house, and I told him to stay away from my wife.

I have told my wife that our children are not to spend time at his home playing with his daughter and that I want her to cut off ALL contact with him.

I also told my wife that if she continued to make room in her life for this OM, there would be no room in my life for her as my wife.

I am, fortunately, in a better place than you are. I am the sole bread winner in our household. My wife is very well taken care of and values her lifestyle. She knows that if she pushes me on this I will back up what I have said with action.

Right now, E thinks I am a controlling SOB. But, I know that the time she respects me is when I stand my ground, no matter how much she tries to get me to capitulate regarding this matter. She has been rude, used sarcasm, given me the silent treatment, argued, and has generally been very unkind. All because she is convinced that I am trying to control her. This is her main complaint about me. I have been doing my absolute best to give her much more space, but the OM is one thing I WILL NOT negotiate on.

What I found interesting is that you mentioned that an EA is generally not acknowledged in Malaysia or in Chinese culture. E has told me that an EA is something she doesn't believe in. she grew up in Central Europe.

I hope things are faring better for you. I'll keep reading your thread.