E and I did go to MC about two years ago. She didn't trust the first counselor because I had been seeing him for IC for about two months before he invited her in with me. I had been working with him on jealousy issues. We picked the second counselor together, but E decided she didn't want to see her either because she didn't like the counselor's reaction when I brought up the subject of the OM that was causing problems between us.
So we did go to counseling, but E didn't like either counselor. I have since told her that if she wants to pick a counselor, I will go with her. She hasn't scheduled anything for us and it's been almost a year and a half since then. The funny thing is that if I tell her that I had been working on things by attending counseling, she tells me that it doesn't count because it was for me and not for us. Go figure.
A favorite thing she likes to say to me is that she thinks I'm getting counseling and coaching so that mentally I'm prepared to walk out on her. She feels that there is nothing wrong with her staying out til 5am at clubs and who knows where else. There is also nothing wrong with her having an OM "friend" who hangs out at our place for hours at a time while I'm gone on business, and there's no such thing as an EA. She feels that only a PA is wrong, and she says she's not guilty of that.
What I see over and over again is E trying to push all blame off on me without shouldering any responsibility for our present state.
Me: 49 Wife: 39 D's: 9 & 11 Together: 15 Married: 13 Bomb 1 ILYBNILWU: 08/2012 Bomb 2 I feel dead inside towards you: 12/2013 EA? 06/2012-?
