Thank you BrightFuture, without mindreading or having more hope than I should. I also see the door being open a little. Combined with the little birdie that told me the W is having some issues with the OW, and why she is seeing a counselor and psychologist in the last few months, which started nearly a year after BD. Most people would see them at BD time.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.