Best to you NLW! You must try rowing if you can it is really fun... And what a workout! Thank you for coming by... It's been a long and windy beat up dirt path to say the least.
Quick update- h arrived last night. We had a brief chat and he left to his friends house ( this is the husband of my BFF, H's old best friend who he seems to be reconnecting with). As I mentioned, I leave tomorrow for a school trip tomorrow so h was meant to move in tomorrow. When I came home from work today I found that he has unpacked his suitcase in the guest bedroom. I didn't say anything at all.
D6 said 'daddy are you staying here tonight?' He said 'yes most probably I will'.
I didn't say anything. Just watching and observing.
Poor D6- she wants him so badly ... Later on she said 'daddy since you are unpacked you might as well stay here tonight, right?'
Again he said ' yes like I said I will most probably'
I think he is so scared about doing this- if he is.
Last year and the year before I went on this trip, I had to go to the airport at midnight. He literally would come 30 minutes before I left.
This is different. But I am watching watching and watching.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Best to you NLW! You must try rowing if you can it is really fun... And what a workout! Thank you for coming by... It's been a long and windy beat up dirt path to say the least.
Quick update- h arrived last night. We had a brief chat and he left to his friends house ( this is the husband of my BFF, H's old best friend who he seems to be reconnecting with). As I mentioned, I leave tomorrow for a school trip tomorrow so h was meant to move in tomorrow. When I came home from work today I found that he has unpacked his suitcase in the guest bedroom. I didn't say anything at all.
D6 said 'daddy are you staying here tonight?' He said 'yes most probably I will'.
I didn't say anything. Just watching and observing.
Poor D6- she wants him so badly ... Later on she said 'daddy since you are unpacked you might as well stay here tonight, right?'
Again he said ' yes like I said I will most probably'
I think he is so scared about doing this- if he is.
Last year and the year before I went on this trip, I had to go to the airport at midnight. He literally would come 30 minutes before I left.
This is different. But I am watching watching and watching.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Best to you NLW! You must try rowing if you can it is really fun... And what a workout! Thank you for coming by... It's been a long and windy beat up dirt path to say the least.
Quick update- h arrived last night. We had a brief chat and he left to his friends house ( this is the husband of my BFF, H's old best friend who he seems to be reconnecting with). As I mentioned, I leave tomorrow for a school trip tomorrow so h was meant to move in tomorrow. When I came home from work today I found that he has unpacked his suitcase in the guest bedroom. I didn't say anything at all.
D6 said 'daddy are you staying here tonight?' He said 'yes most probably I will'.
I didn't say anything. Just watching and observing.
Poor D6- she wants him so badly ... Later on she said 'daddy since you are unpacked you might as well stay here tonight, right?'
Again he said ' yes like I said I will most probably'
I think he is so scared about doing this- if he is.
Last year and the year before I went on this trip, I had to go to the airport at midnight. He literally would come 30 minutes before I left.
This is different. But I am watching watching and watching.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Best to you NLW! You must try rowing if you can it is really fun... And what a workout! Thank you for coming by... It's been a long and windy beat up dirt path to say the least.
Quick update- h arrived last night. We had a brief chat and he left to his friends house ( this is the husband of my BFF, H's old best friend who he seems to be reconnecting with). As I mentioned, I leave tomorrow for a school trip tomorrow so h was meant to move in tomorrow. When I came home from work today I found that he has unpacked his suitcase in the guest bedroom. I didn't say anything at all.
D6 said 'daddy are you staying here tonight?' He said 'yes most probably I will'.
I didn't say anything. Just watching and observing.
Poor D6- she wants him so badly ... Later on she said 'daddy since you are unpacked you might as well stay here tonight, right?'
Again he said ' yes like I said I will most probably'
I think he is so scared about doing this- if he is.
Last year and the year before I went on this trip, I had to go to the airport at midnight. He literally would come 30 minutes before I left.
This is different. But I am watching watching and watching.
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Also noticed.... Pretty sure texting is happening... With OW. It's in the way he holds the phone and tilts it towards himself but only for certain texts... Not everyone's.
Watching...
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Thank you for the lovely post. It mean a lot to me. I've been working hard and it's nice that you noticed.
Keep on detaching. You're doing great. Keep your eyes focused on your own little house.
He is still a teenager feeling his freedom. I know with my D19, I've learned to allow her own mistakes. She has some friends I don't really like so much. Funny thing, now that I've washed my hands of it, allowed her to make her own choices, she doesn't seem interested in seeing those friends anymore.
Maybe our MLC H's are the same. Not dealing with a full deck and trying like mad to break free from parental control. Just maybe the best stuff happens when we let them do their "thing" no matter how dumb it may be.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
You've gotta expect (!!!) continued texting from OW even if your H is trying to pull himself away.
OWs have these guys on a short leash, particularly if they know that they are spending any time with their families.
I know my XH gets multiple texts from the hag when ever he is with us.
OW must be so insecure.
As one of my friends keeps reminding me: she knows too well what he is capable of (betrayal, lies, cheating). Why wouldn't she be scared every time he is out of her sight?
I figure her constant checking on him will get boring, real quick.
Remember - keep the focus on yourself and let go of the rest.
Whatever will happen will happen. In the meantime, you make yourself happy!
((((((((busting))))))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
