I joined the facebook folks and I wrote the above summary so I decided to post it here as well.

I was thinking about my situation and everything I had been through and in a spontaneous moment I sent my W a simple text message.

Me: Walked past xxx tasting room. Thought of you. Hope you're well.

Her (about 15 minutes later): "Ah thank you. I was fortunate enough to get the flu bug. Only worked 1 day this week. Been in bed trying to get well frown

on another note.. I am thinking about trading car in for something more affordable. Will need you to approve trade in when the time comes."

I will respond soon that I hope she gets better soon. And I am happy to help with the car.

I am not sure if she was friendly becasue she needs my help with something .. but anyway silence is broken

Me-45
W-44
T-7 years
M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated)
Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)