Fog City Coaster - trouble hanging on

[2ndtimearoundCA]

I have not been posting too often but here is a summary of my situation. I decided to be a bit proactive today and I will post that next

Timeline summary

BD 2/24/13

Living separately by mid-March (when w was staying in house I was not and visa versa)Tons of circumstantial evidence about existence of OM by end of March. I confront w about OM. W denies OM but says that she needs that connection (sex) and will be dating.W moves out of house 4/15/13


End of April I begin following a text messaging strategy that I found on the internet. I had very little expectations about this strategy but it seemed to work very well. W began contacting me and asking to meet at the gym or for drinks. I did get the ILYBNILWY speech at one point but things kept progressing until the end of June when we had agreed to go to Las Vegas together in late July. She canceled two days before we were to fly out.

End of August thru mid October w and I were meeting for drinks or dinner every few weeks. At one point w sent me a text asking me to have sex with her. Logistics were such that I could not make it happen quickly. The next week we went out to dinner and she came back to the house and when it felt like something might happen she said that ex sex was a bad idea becasue I would get too emotionally involved. That night she told me that when things get tough she runs away. She said she was running away then, but two weeks later we were having dinner again.


This is the last time we did something together


She text me after


Her: thank you for a stress free evening. Sweet dreams


I text her back in the morning

Me: was nice to get some stress relief after a long hard day... Good morning

While w and I were together that night, w expressed some anxiety about needing to fulfill a continuing education requirement for a license that we both possess. I told her that I would take care of getting her signed up. So I took care of this for her and she text me a few days later thanking me and telling me I am wonderful.

We had a bit of communication via text after that meeting, but then W iginored a couple of texts that I sent. Right around my birthday in mid november w appeared again via text and asked me to have drinks only to apparently forget the night we were supposed to go.

She said she wanted to give me a rain check and was super busy with work. I suggested we get together on a weekend and she said that she was working right thruough the weekeends. I pushed it a bit this time and suggested that she could take a break. She said that she was out of town the next two weekends.

A few weeks later I sent a happy thanksgiving text and she didnt respond.

I had a bit of a backslide the week after thanksgiving.

I woke up in the middle of the night frustrated and text her: "time for something different"

That text of course made no sense. She responded the next morning "???"

I responded "for example different registration stickers on your car"

I had a bunch of her mail including her car registration. I know that was a bizarre response from me.

She responded by basically telling me I am a weirdo, but said she wanted to stop by to pick up her mail.

When W stopped by to pick up her mail it was the first time I had seen her in two months. I wasn't really prepared for her. When she text me two days before, she said she was coming by 3 hours earlier than she came, so I figured it wasn't going to happen and I had forgotten about it. I was sitting in the kitchen entering grades with Christmas music blasting. I realized after she left that I was sitting in the late afternoon twilight with only Christmas tree lights on in the adjacent room. Our interaction lasted about two minutes. I had to go outside and get her mail from where I left it for her to pick up if I wasn't home. She commented on a slightly damaged window frame on the front of the house.She returned some Christmas decorations that she took when she moved out and belong to me.That's it. She thanked me and said bye.

Last time i saw her a gave her a hug goodbye. Didn't seem like the right thing to do this time. I noticed that her hair looked nice but didn't say anything. I was a bit toungetied. Probably would have been nice for me to say...

Most recently early this month (January 2014) w and I met for about 15 second when she transfered a phone line from my account to hers. We have not communicated in about three weeks now. We said maybe two words to each other that day.

This is where I am at on January 24 2014

We are seaparated with no papers filed for Divorce