I understand how frustrating it is. I've had two attorneys tell me the court doesn't care, they've heard worse, blah, blah, blah. It wasn't until I did my own research and presented family codes along with documents that the opinion changed. Until that point I felt hopeless and, at times, despondent. After all, how could xh spending wildly while I was scraping by, making sure the boys had what they needed? It isn't fair or legal and I believe the judge will care.
Didn't you find a receipt for a ring that your h bought OW? I hope you made a copy of that and anything else you can find. Make a timeline of events and create a paper trail. Present all of it to your attorney. Like my xh, your h will be ordered to pay certain expenses and cannot just decide not to pay them. I am one late support payment from having xh's wages garnished. Now that the mortgage is in my name he has no incentive to pay me on time. It's just a matter of time before he starts floating funds and giving me excuses.
To comment on one of your earlier posts regarding finances, I, too, feel so much better that I am in control of my bank account, bill paying and future planning. I feel so much more secure. I know it can be hard to see sometimes, but WH you have come such a long way. Your life is coming together beautifully. Moving is stressful, but it will pass. You will finally have peace and no longer have to live under the same roof with someone who mistreats you. It's liberating.
