Suckerpunch, the final thread

[25yearsmlc]

How quickly attitudes can change.


YOUR attitude changed, not hers. Is it b/c she is happy...and you don't approve?

I sent W a text this morning saying, "happy birthday. I hope your enjoy your special day". She texted back nicely, letting me know about her activities. she had planned. She took the day off work so she and OM could do a couple sports related party stops. For the most part, they road tripped all over the state, starting at 3:30 am. Seriously? She took another day off work, after taking the entire New Years week off to go on vacation to Arizona, Nevada and Mexico? She puts in a whopping 12 hours a week for the last 14 months, and even that is too much to ask. She vacations and parties like nobodies business, even though her drinking has settled down, she is going harder and faster than ever before. Om must be funding her good times. That is fine and dandy. I don't discredit anyone from having a good time, but here is where my attitude changed.....

I think given your comments here^^, your attitude changed before you got a letter from her L. And this was completely predicted. Why are you surprised that she still does not agree with you? (Many of us don't either and NO, you do not need to explain it again to me). It is, what it is. A disagreement. That's what courts are for.

I spoke with My attorney today. W's attorney is asking for even MORE financial records. During our conversation, my attorney pointed out that W not working was going to reflect on my support costs.

and you'll live in the "family home" and she'll find a new place to live and geez, we have gone over this so often. Here it comes...how you are supporting her "cheating" or her good times, etc. Every person who pays anything, makes this comment...as if it's ONLY good times they are supporting, and not a roof over the head of their child, and as if they themselves are doing all the work and not having any fun...


I guess I will have to help fund her goodtimes, while I bust my donuts to pay my bills. Actually no, I am "trying" to pay my bills. I am falling farther behind every month. I took on an extra side job this weekend to pay for daughters dentist visit this week. It just infuriates me to no end!

I swear I had not already read this^^^!!! (but I knew it was coming). You are the victim and she is "winning" b/c she is having fun and somehow that prevents you from enjoying life so you are "Busting your donuts"...

SP, this is the old you...is it still the main part of the real you?


So wrong to me that she can choose to have her sugar daddy pay her way, not work, play like she's 19 years old with a brand new American Express card and have ZERO accountability for supporting herself of daughter. It just erks me! JUST F'IN ERRRRKS ME!

Now I will step down off my podium. Thank you for reading, and I am sorry you had to hear it. I just needed to get this off my chest.

you got it off your chest....again...

how many times are you going to do that? I mean, CLEARLY, venting here, is not helping you b/c you are still doing it a year later. If it were helping you diffuse your anger and grow, I'd support it.

But It keeps you stuck. SO next time you feel the swirling vortex of negativity (SVON) coming over you, put a STOP SIGN in your face and stop the victim talk.

You'd think your w wanted all your money AND the home AND the child...

and that you are helpless and alone all the time without any family support or social support.

Stop the stinking thinking...I leave your thread and check every so often to see how much growth there is.

And I see the same stuff that I saw way back almost a year ago. Work harder. Get the TOOLS for change!

Please tell me you have a counselor. If not, how on earth do you see yourself changing your life?