Hey Bug! Saying hello!!! You are so generous to share your experiences and answer others questions so thoughtfully! You give everyone so much hope.
How are you? How is H doing? What's going on with you two "piecing" luvbugs lately?
I liked your story from today-rang some bells.
It's been a bit tricky the last couple of days. H had to have that post 50 screening procedure that we all hate. He has always had trouble with these kinds of things, gets whiny, complains a lot, is defensive, questions everything.
I'm having a hard time honoring this Golden Rule from the sticky above: The third Golden Rule, "Listen to each other," reminds you about the importance of putting aside your commentaries, reactions, and defensiveness and just simply acknowledging your partner's point of view.
I'm in healthcare and while I'm empathetic, I'm also more of a "just do it and get it over with, no whining" kind of person. More so with family than professionally.
So he's hit some of my buttons over the last couple of days and I've had to remind myself to validate and not fix. None of this is about me.
I'm sure I've hit some of his, too.
I'm trying to keep the R at the top of my mind.
Those automatic responses just want to fly right out of my mouth.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
