I don't think you're being controlling but you're handing the control of you over to her.

Be unavailable for a while. If she's really serious about this, she won't be deterred.

Live dingo's life.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss