Wonka, this is the reply I was looking at sending. Part of your example and part Fartiltre example.

"W, thank you for sharing your thoughts about the marriage. I know it cannot be easy for you at all and it took tremendous courage on your part to do this. I didn't realize that you thought the marriage was a form of "abuse" to you. I appreciate you being so open and honest with me. To be clear, I do not want a divorce, but will not stand in your way.
I did sign the papers with my solicitor on the 16th Jan. They should have been mailed to you. If that is not the case then please let me know and I will look into this. I hope this will help you out of the limbo because nobody wants to be there. HWA

ME:51 W:46
M:25
S:22, S:20
Divorced 16/9/15
BD 10/12
W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12.
Dark since 6/13
I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.