Barrybran II - Six Weeks In

[Barrybran]

Yeah I see what you're saying but it'll take a bit of time to wrap my head around it. I did ask to try and get in touch with her feelings directly rather than doing things the long way. I'll work on it.

She's been pretty cranky with me today. She did let me know she's thought I was being mopey and playing the "woe is me" card when I was actually processing her thoughts so I'll have to keep an eye out on that. I reread what she wrote to try and validate but it was a tough one. She explicitly said she didn't want lists of activities and I should "stop overthinking things and just do it". I validated where I could but she's rejected my ideas this past week so I told her I understood her wishes and reiterated that I can't do activities with her unless she's actually involved otherwise I'd be doing them by myself. This is anti-DB, I know, but I'm actually happy with what I do at home and don't need to go out and about just for something to do. I can entertain myself but apparently I need to entertain her too so I'll just go back to doing own thing and if there's an opportunity to include her I will.

She went out for lunch and asked me to make a pros and cons list about staying together. I was apprehensive about the idea but compiled the list anyway. She was in a better mood when she came home at least. I'll give her my list later and see how things go.