Yea I feel that way too. I think we all do. Try to get ur mind off her. Focus on YOU. Do things YOU enjoy. Get back to what YOU once loved to do. Find yourself again, the real YOU is in there, YOU just have to let it out.
No one said this was going to be easy. Think marathon not sprint. Don't beat yourself up over this backslide. You got ur answer now move on with YOU
I find doing something daring/dangerous really makes oneself feel alive (legal ofcourse). It seem to bring out the spirit to live. Atleast for me.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
I think i am driven to it by the feeling of being totally out of control.
Of course you feel that way, we ALL do. How can one person so thoroughly mess up our lives, our plans, our futures? Here's the thing- you cannot control your W or your M. You CAN control YOU. So that's where you need to turn your focus. It's easier said than done, I have certainly had my own slip-ups and backslides. But once you get to the point that you realize that you really can only control your own life and you leave your W to her journey, things get a LOT easier for you from that point on!
All of us do pal. That's why we're here for each other. We all need the reminders.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
I learned a good thing today. I was feeling some pain at this situation and something popped up from a book I had read recently. It said basically that if you love someone and they don't love you back, it is ok.
Part of the pain I have been feeling is based on the perception of not 'feeling worthy' of love from my spouse. Her actions, her lack of love back towards me, in no way affects the 'worthiness' of me.
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
I learned a good thing today. I was feeling some pain at this situation and something popped up from a book I had read recently. It said basically that if you love someone and they don't love you back, it is ok.
Part of the pain I have been feeling is based on the perception of not 'feeling worthy' of love from my spouse. Her actions, her lack of love back towards me, in no way affects the 'worthiness' of me.
Take a walk when it comes. take a drive in the car. go to the gym each day and work it out of you. Walk away from her. If I helps, try to remember the fact that she's walking away from you. in this case, feel a little sense of "its your loss, I'm going to enjoy my life..." DO NOT ACTUALLY SAY this to your WAS! o make your life rock. don't just act like you're moving one. DO IT!
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
Sorry about the typo's but I hope you get where I was going....
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
