W wants Divorce, I Do Not-III

[tough spot]

I agree BH that not filing/making her do the 'dirty work' is probably a good idea. I understand a bit while filing for you with the abandonment/affair would be better in the legal sense. However, that is only good if you think the divorce would get nasty and she is going to try to take you to the turf, financially.


Of course, I am not a lawyer and could have it all wrong! I think the WAS feels some guilt/remorse and I think it is their right to feel the full brunt of that. Not in a nasty vindictive way, just that that is the result of their actions so they must bear the consequences.