Yes, I did. One was $95 an hour with a three hour minimum. I hate this stuff. I hate making these decisions. I was going to go with the movers until I had to get my car fixed. That has put a damper on things.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
I recall when Ms. Wonka and I graduated out of college, we hired movers to load up our UHaul truck then we did the driving. This is another way to save money. As Heather said, call around for local movers to ask their rates just for loading up and unloading the UHaul truck. Sometimes when the movers include the truck with the labor, the rates go higher which is why we elected the UHaul truck route.
Since your boss owns that auto repair store, WH, ask her if there can be a way to work out some payment plan for the car repair so you can use the money to pay for the move.
Our local vocational school does car repairs on the cheap. Not sure if that's an option, but I thought I'd mention it.
If there is a university nearby, you could put up a posting on a job board for moving help. I know it would be shortish notice, but, I also know from D19's college experience--college students are always looking for quick cash.
What about the church you have been attending. Sometimes you can post requests for help or even ask the minister if he/she has any suggestions.
I like the idea of hiring movers to just load the truck or unload. The beds can be taken apart.
I know the perfect solution is right around the corner.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
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WH, Whatever you are going to do about movers, you will need to make some decisions within the next couple of days. I don't know about your area, but movers have to be scheduled in advance, as well as U-Haul trucks, especially if you are looking for a 12 or 17 footer.
I gave you a suggestion about looking into the Starving Student moving company. They are extremely good and are fairly reasonable. Do a google search on movers in your area and start doing some calling tomorrow.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks Job. I know you gave me some good advice. Everyone has. It's just so overwhelming.
I met with my insurance agent to set up my policies. Done deal. I didn't know this but he also works in investments so I set up an appointment to come in and talk to him after the move to set up some financial things and get some advice. I always wanted to do that but H is not concerned with long term planning. He lives for the here and now. Now I can plan accordingly and it's all about me!!! And the kids of course.
On the H front he told me tonight he is planning to file an objection to the order my attorney sent to the judge regarding the PMSA because as he says "we haven't lived up to our end of the deal". In other words he has no guarantee that we will reneg on our end of the agreement and calculate child support at 50/50. I think he's still trying to hold Placement as a carrot for me to sign off on the financials. I don't think he will get far with it. But we will see.
I told H he needed to deal with the attorney directly on this financial stuff. I told him I couldn't wrap my head around it. I stroked his ego a bit and told him he may know the numbers but The attorney knows the law so if he wanted closure on this case he needs to deal with the lawyer directly. So I think I have him off my back. For now.
Regarding the taxes, H said he found the escrow check. He had it the entire time. So I signed it and he said he would drop it off tomorrow. It looks like it might be a bit of overpayment and we might get a refund. But it still begs the question of how this is going to affect our tax refund. Now he will be able to claim those property taxes on his next Year's taxes. I don't know if the courts will or can do anything about that or not.
I have been thinking that I would be willing to sign off on maintenance in exchange for a three year buyout. H is offering a two year buyout but I think three is fair. I am not willing to sign off half the bonuses because the kids are entitled to that money. But then the process of making sure I get them will be problematic. I think if he agrees to those two things I will agree to take on the marital credit card, but I want to get the lawyer's thoughts on that.
I asked H how to move things and how to put things together and he told me he was willing to help. I can't afford to not accept it at this point. I will rent a covered trailer and H can help me load it up and unload. He is anxious to "get this stuff out of here" as he tenderly said to me so he is willing to help.
Okay so I will see how much crap I can move over this weekend and then play it by ear next week.
Ugh. Such a day. I wanted to relax so I stopped at the grocery store and picked up a bunch of Hostess ding dongs. Let's see if he accuses me of overeating in front of the judge! Lol!!
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
If your h is willing to help you get moved and you feel comfortable w/him being there, then by all means sign him up. It's free labor and I bet he'll have you moved in no time. Be sure to call and schedule your U-Haul today so that there is one available when you need it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Moving out, trying to work through it. Got a fax from the dentist regarding the balance due on Evan's dental. H has been claiming he has been paying on this dentist bill but he has not paid one red cent. My attorney told me to put a payment on it but that's just not right. It makes me so angry that H can get away with his bad behavior. It makes me want to punish him and hurt him but that isn't good either.
This is setting the precedent for how this stuff is gonna go in the future. I need to let go of this anger and unfairness. It seems to be swallowing me up. It's consuming me.
This financial garbage will not stop. He refuses to agree to allow the child placement order to go into place unless we agree to his terms on the financial, even though he has signed the PMSA. I am beyond frustrated.
I leave it to the lawyer and I owe money. And my lawyer is a busy man and in the meantime I have all this swirling in my head. I'm glad I have this board to vent to.
How can he be allowed to get away with this? He's just such a jerk. But I need his help and to keep peace in the house for now. So I have to con the con so to speak.
BTW our house stinks. Literally stinks. I came home and there are all kinds of funky smells everywhere. What is H's solution? Buy air fresheners. So fake good smell on top of the stink. Not pleasant. Our living room smelled so much of dog last night it was unbelievable. I have never smelled the dog so much as I did last night. I asked H why the dog odor was so strong and he had no idea and was wondering about that himself. What's the solution? More febreze.
Calgon take me away!
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
