My recommendation is go if you can not have any expectations. Show your support, even if its from a distance, then leave. If you cant do that, then don't go.
What type of therapist to you have, is he/her a pro-marriage counselor? What kind of advice do you think he's giving you? If your standing for your marriage and he's giving you advice to move on, you might want to check into a different therapist. Not all therapists work towards solution-based therapy. Don't be afraid to interview him, see if your on the same page. And if not, don't be afraid to look for another. I can tell you my own nightmares in the counseling dept. It took 5. He's there to work FOR you, not against your marriage.
I'll be honest, the sponsor is from your debt thing? Is he qualified to give you advice on your marriage? I don't know, but getting different opinions from different types of professionals seems a bit like your reaching for someone to just agree with your side of the sitch. Whichever technique your going to use, wheter it be DB, your therapist or a sponsor. I'd hardly try mixing the advice. A pro-marriage counselor is more trained to see that there are two sides of the story. Your still a bit bitter at whats happening, understandable, its still raw.
Are you giving an honest assessment of the situation, or just your version? Looking for validation of the circumstances you provide without giving more of the "whole picture".
I'm still reading a lot of she did this, I cant belive she's doing that. Wheres the I need to work on this or that?
Maybe im giving bad advice, MrB is so much better with the early questioning. But honestly, your barely a warm cup of coffee into this, you have a LONG way to go before this is decided one way or the other. But your sure helping sooner along by not having some control over yourself and your emotions.
ok guys we have news, she sent me this email today:
Guillermo,
Thank you for your response. I will take care of the coned. I will be there tomorrow to get my things.
Please leave the car insurance card with the ..... address so I can get the title. I want to transfer the car to you as soon as possible. Thanks.
L...
yesterday I sent her this other one:
Dear L....
I paid ALL the phone in the amount of $249.
Please pay ALL the Con-Ed. I will change the Con-Ed to my name. In the future, please inform me prior to your actions so that I can re-search options.
You can pick up your things on Friday after3pm and before 10pm.
When I move and get our deposit back, I will mail you a check for half.
Guillermo
I feel so awfull that there is no way to describe!!!!!!
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
I just wanna cry and I have no strenght to even leave the apartment, tomorrow its even gonna be worst when I come home and I dont see none of her things. For 2 days I didnt check her facebook or call log from the bill and today I did it again i am such a failure that I feel dont deserve to live anymore. What a looser I am
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
I don't understand what you feel awful about. You told her to get her things and to pay the Con-Ed bill so she's doing it. You continue to push and so you are the one causing all this. Why do you feel awful?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I didn't told her to pick up her stuff!! you are not reading the story and then you are judging me all the time and making me feel even worst, I tough this was a forum for help not to punish me more and even made me feel way worst. This was the first email that she sent me last week, then I went and respond with the second and she responded that last one today.
Hello,
I would like to come pick up my stuff next week. Can you email me the times you will be out of the house so I can know when I can do that?
Also, the car needs to be transfered to you. Can you leave the insurance card that shows the address of ..... so I can take that to the DMV and have them resend the title to the right address. I will pick up the card next week when I come get my stuff. I also would like to know if you think you are going to be able to return the security deposit of $775 to me soon?
And the last part is regarding your papers in this country. I would like to sign the divorce papers soon. Please let me know if you need me to wait a month or two until you get your permanent greencard or what.
Thank you. L...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
you said I continue to push and I am not contacting her, I am not doing nothing but wait a couple of days before I responded her email... I came here asking how to respond to that email, just please read my posts.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
I did read your posts. I don't think you know what it is that you are writing.
YOU said...
"yesterday I sent her this other one: Dear L....
I paid ALL the phone in the amount of $249.
Please pay ALL the Con-Ed. I will change the Con-Ed to my name. In the future, please inform me prior to your actions so that I can re-search options.
You can pick up your things on Friday after3pm and before 10pm.
When I move and get our deposit back, I will mail you a check for half.
Guillermo"
And then SHE replied...
"Guillermo,
Thank you for your response. I will take care of the coned. I will be there tomorrow to get my things.
Please leave the car insurance card with the ..... address so I can get the title. I want to transfer the car to you as soon as possible. Thanks.
L..."
You never even mentioned that she had asked to pick up her stuff before you posted this. So you are the one who is wrong. You have to learn how to communicate better in order for us to help you.
I have to ask. Is English your native language? I have a hard time reading your posts because it's pretty jumbled.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
My language its spanish, sorry for confussing, its not my intentiin. I am panicking and very nervous because of this situation and I dont underestand why all this is happening.
I really need help, I am desperate and dont know what to do. Could you please give me your feedback about those emails? How do you see the whole situation? Any hope?
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
Nothing I am by myself at home crying and just looking for hope....
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
i am such a failure that I feel dont deserve to live anymore. What a looser I am