There are so many feelings and issues wrapped up in his visits. The girls don't want anything to do with him. I guess this is their payback for the months and months he just dropped outta their lives.
The relationship before BD was challenging, but existed. With D19, there's always been issues because they are very much alike in personality. She has never felt heard by her dad. His addiction kept him at arm's length. He likes to scapegoat her because she has a tendency to open her mouth when she shouldn't and do stuff that draws attention--like her father. She, then, gets pummeled with judgment by him. He used her as his excuse for leaving when he moved out. She was too this or that...
He could never accept how teens are--sometimes belligerent and not always nice to their parents. He took it very personally--which is a bit ironic considering how he treats other people himself. Still, he was a dad when he lived here--a flawed dad, but still a dad.
His relationship with D11 was a good one. Of course she was 9 when he left and, now with so many months of him being completely gone from her life-with the occasional text--she really doesn't feel safe with him anymore.
I tried hard to tell him how he was pushing them away, but he, of course, didn't listen.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
