Word of caution. Paul, if that is your IRL first name and you're using your W's actual name, rethink that. These posts are easily searchable through google.
People come on here all the time horrified that the S has found their posts on the board.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss