My L said see if she will agree to the 5k and get back to him.
A picture of her car doesn't say whether she still owns it or not.
She seems to not want to tell me who her solicitor is. I'm tempted to tell her my Solicitor needs to know the name. From this point on I would prefer them to handle it all.
I would tell the L that the reason you are utilizing him is because you and W can't agree on anything and you would prefer he send her a letter directly (if she wont give you her L's name) or to her L in the event you ever get the name. The fact that she won't give you the name shows you certainly can't work things out together!
As for the song you mentioned and where you are today, it is sad to have that realization but you are doing so great and you should be proud of all of the changes you have made.
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
I know it's total mind reading but I have suspisions she is getting legal advice of a friend and not paying a for an L. Shouldn't make any difference to me.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
Me: Just triple checking you don't want the cats. W: What is your plan with them? Me Someone on Facebook was gonna have them but backed out. The cat refuge is going to contact me when they have space in the next week or so. W: Bring them Friday. If they settle I'll keep them but if not you'll have to take them back on the Sunday & they can go to the cat place. W: And just to be clear I've not appreciated you playing on my good nature about the cat's. Are you having the boys for a week on the 1st may? I need a break! Me: If they don't settle it would be much kinder for them to go to the refuge in (W's town) and not have to make the trip back. Me: Not until I know where I am financially. W: Erm no. I will not be taking them to a refuge in (my town). If they do not settle you take them back otherwise dont bother. Me: I will just wait for the refuge. W: What was the point in contacting me then! Me: To see if you wanted them. W: Just stop contacting me!!! Sick to death of your games. Always your way or nothing. W: You know I don't want them going to the refuge but I have a million things going on in my life right now and the last thing I need is you poor excuse of a man f*cking with my head. W: From this moment on do NOT contact me ever again except in regards to the kids.
I know I shouldn't be contacting her but the cat thing isn't reversalable so I wanted to be sure. It blows my mind that she would rather the cats take another long car journey just to go to the refuge there.
Got the first draft of the letter from the L today. Gave them some notes as some things were now incorrect (like she hasn't sold her car).
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
It sounds like you're handling your W's treatment of you really well, but I'm sorry it has to be like this for you. I hope at some point in the future she'll stop blaming you for all the world's problems and you two can get along better. It's no fun to be tied to another person for life via kids - especially when they're growing up - and not be able to have an amicable relationship.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
"Me: Just triple checking you don't want the cats."
When I read that line I honestly slapped myself on the forehead. The rest of the convo is completely what I would have expected based on you two's history. Why, oh WHY do you keep reaching out to her? Do you like to be abused?
It sounds like you're handling your W's treatment of you really well, but I'm sorry it has to be like this for you. I hope at some point in the future she'll stop blaming you for all the world's problems and you two can get along better. It's no fun to be tied to another person for life via kids - especially when they're growing up - and not be able to have an amicable relationship.
-PM
It's going to be a long road but one that I have to travel. The less I let her venom effect me the easier it gets even if she is spitting.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
She does have one point. Stop contacting her! Your opening the door for crazy now!
Leave it alone now. Contact her only in regards to the kids. You should know she is not going to give you rational answers or do anything that might be for the benefit of someone other than herself, including the cats
She is right and you are right. I thought the subject deserved the attention though and have no regrets contacting her about it. I won't be contacting her again unless it's an absolute must.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
"Me: Just triple checking you don't want the cats."
When I read that line I honestly slapped myself on the forehead. The rest of the convo is completely what I would have expected based on you two's history. Why, oh WHY do you keep reaching out to her? Do you like to be abused?
She saw it as me playing on her good nature and playing games. That definitely wasn't my intention. Reading it back I felt the same about the "triple checking", it makes me cringe. I don't like the abuse but I have to live with my actions and I wanted to give her and the cats one last chance.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
