Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

Thanks, Fly and Paul. I need people to keep me honest here Starting right now I am letting go of the backslide(s) and moving forward. Will re-read the 37 rules regularly, and when I start feeling frustrated that there are too many "do nots" compared to "dos", I will channel my need to "do" into making plans for myself! A goal for myself this weekend is to go to a movie by myself. I've never done it, but there's one I really want to see and just going and doing it without waiting for someone to go with me will be a good step forward, I think. As for fixing my parts of why this happened, I can continue to be thankful/appreciative when he helps out with things around the house, and I need to continue to not ask him about his plans or be jealous/insecure when he goes and does something without me (this has been pretty easy so far because he hasn't really done anything since the BD besides go to work, watch tv, check fantasy sports, and play games on his phone).

Re: following threads, I've been reading several from the beginning to now, but it's sometimes hard to relate because many of the stories mention that their spouses were wavering/went back and forth from the beginning on leaving vs. working on things. I think finding a thread or two where the S was DONE, no ifs, ands, or buts, but then eventually came around to wondering if things could be fixed, would be encouraging and more relate-able, because it's hard to be hopeful when H sounds so firm on his decision. I'll keep digging - any suggestions?