The secret to life is finding the balanced path between right and wrong...in all things you do. As in life, the posters above are giving you two options...on one side there is confronting her (and the negative response that will come with it) and on the other side of the path is totally ignoring it (very hard and pulls your self esteem down).
The middle path would be to do both....I suggest first making a date for yourself for direct confrontation......Say a month. If it is still going on....then address it. So for the next month ignore it, work on refinding your center (it is lost at the moment), and drop the occasional transparency idea. Now the twist is I suggest to stop snooping.....you know it is going on and that is all you need to know about. Content and frequency is irrelevant. If you push the transparency she will just move to another form of communication....so just the occasional nudge.
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To be honest indigo, I doubt you could do the non-confront thing for long anyway. I know I wouldn't, even if I could. To disrespectful for me.
Having said that, attempting to force them to drop the OP never seems to work well either. Even if if it does "work", is that real love?
I want my W to come back because she wants to, not because I bombed her A. Just seems like R may last longer that way.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
