Ok, just an update: Have received two texts within 24 hours. Haven't replied to the second text yet.
First text: "Hotwheelsaust, I have just found you are internet dating. How dare you write to me about how you will stand for you marriage and vows and try to make me feel like I have no values (? don't understand this one). I will be contacting my solicitor this week to check you have signed and returned the agreement. I will be paying you nothing (? again she never was to pay me anything) other than paying for the financial agreement.
I sent a text back validating her anger. With some explanation on why I did it and I have no communication with her for so long that I simply have no idea about anything to do with our marriage anymore. I asked if we could talk. I replied (2 x 4's) with a fair amount of I care and I love you's.
Second text: "Hotwheelsaust, I wasn't mad that you are internet dating as you are free to date and see anyone you want because we are separated. I was mad because you said you are standing for the marriage and vows. I know it is hard, lonely etc so I have no right to expect you not to date anyone. You don't seem to realise how bad things had become in our marriage and that it had become a form of abuse. I see a councilor and a pyshologist and im working through things with them. The thing you can do for me is sign and return the form to give me some financial freedom so I can make choices about where I may live next year. As it is now it puts me in limbo while you have the houses and assets and I don't have anything. Doing nothing just makes it harder on us both".
Ok, how to respond, if I should. Couple of things: Do I mention the standing and vows are still important? The abuse she is talking about would be the passive/aggressive attitude I had. The forms have been signed and should have been sent last week by the solicitor. She is talking about living somewhere different next year, big difference to staying for ever in the country. She is in limbo? The paperwork only arrived to me, just before Xmas.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
