bent not broken

[bustingout]

Wish I could ask and get an answer to how he justifies me doing everything for the kids.
Busting, have you had that convo with your h?


I have had a similar conversation with H, yes. I was not satisfied at all by the answer. I brought this very issue up three times throughout this. The first time I was still very raw as it was early on in the process. I got anger in response and no acknowledgment of what I was doing. In fact it made me feel worse.

The second time, later on in the process, he didnt say anything in return except, 'yes, I know'.

The third time it came up, more recently (like 2or 3 months ago), he said, 'you have to be strong for both of us right now'...?????

So, I don't know if it helps, but I do feel that they feel giving support to the kids, is implicitly giving support (emotional) to us as well. And they don't want to do that