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[DrAnnie]

I found out on 2/2012 about my H having an EA, we tried to work on things but he kept communications with OW. I kicked him out on 8/2012. The next few months were very hard because we have a 20 month old baby girl and he has not helped me financially at all.

Cell records shows H talks to OW daily. I filled out D papers and drafted a marital settlement agreement and handed the docs to him on 1/4/2014, a day before our 13 yr anniversary. He claimed not to want D, didn't know when he would cut contact with OW or attempt to do something about our R. He seems truly lost. I discovered the same week, talked to a DB coach and read DR. I also stopped all contact with him on 1/4/14, only on Sundays I see him when he takes baby girl for the day.

So, I don't want a D but also don't plan on sitting around for someone taking me for granted. I spent my last 5 months on GAL w/o knowing, IC, yoga, self reflection, focus on my daugther, etc... Now just patiently focusing on me and hoping this LDEA ends...

Anyone DB successful with LDEA? My H texted me tonight about baby, then small chat wanting to know if I was dating, not sure where that came from....how long should I have no contact? Any advice is kindly needed and appreciated.