"Shall I tell them about us Martha?" - Edward Albee
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Wow! I performed The Zoo Story in school several times. Love it! I played Peter. You're a sharp and deep cookie WH.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Hahahahah. Man, that is 30 years ago. What memories. My exW could never grasp that stuff....just not interested. I tried for years to get her to read Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf, or to see it performed. Often the film would be on TV at night while flipping and would ask her to just give it a try. She always refused citing it was in black and white.....sighhhhhhhhh.... Well, I guess we ended up performing it ourselves anyway several times In a sense. Thanks for the memory. That's awesome. Good night.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
WH, the car xh told me about. I found out about the house when I received an email confirming the purchase and delivery of appliances (xh was unaware that our old family email was still on his rewards account). I went to the county recorder's office to get the title. Regarding the dentist expenses, I have access to claims information for xh and the boys. I set up the username and password and xh hasn't changed it.
In my state, as long as xh is paying support he has a continuing fiduciary responsibility to me as if we were still married. That means he needs to provide any loan documents, tax returns, etc. to me when I ask for them. I am sure xh didn't know that. His attorney should have told him what his disclosure obligations are. If xh refused to provide documents then his attorney should resign from representing him since he has a professional and ethical responsibility as an officer of the court. So, either he is completely inept or he just kept pocketing money with full knowledge that xh was in breach of family law codes which are sanctionable.
WH, you might have access to more than you realize. Keep your eyes and ears open and write down everything even if it seems insignificant. Over time I was able to see a lot of contradictory statements, lies about expenses, etc. I found out a lot from xh's spewing emails.
I called H out on the property taxes. He hasn't paid them and so we are not able to claim them on our taxes so I will miss out on the benefit and we won't get as much money back. He is not fooling me. This is intentional. This way he can claim them on next year's taxes as well as 2014 taxes and get more back.
He claims he never received the escrow check from the mortgage company. He said he was "on hold" with them trying to figure something out. I bet he is trying to figure something out all right.
I am giving him 24 hours to get back to me with an answer. If he doesn't, then I am calling the mortgage company myself and getting to the bottom of this.
In other "good" news my battery light went on this morning on my morning drive to work. My boss also owns an auto repair shop so she sent me over there on my lunch. Good news, the battery is fine. Bad news, the alternator isn't. So there is $400 flying out of my wallet. Good news, thanks to the fact I am not sharing a bank account with H, I have the money and don't need to put it on credit. I keep telling myself it is cheaper than buying a new car. And it's a necessary evil. So why complain about it?
Per the attorney the PMSA is done and just needs to be signed by the judge. So that's one thing off the list. My attorney said H needs to work with him on these financials and stop harassing me about it. I told the Attorney H refuses to work with him. The attorney said if that garbage continues after you move out and he is calling and texting and emailing and badgering you, we will file harassment charges on him and get a restraining order. I told the attorney I wanted to try to keep the peace until I move out. But H is rocking the boat and trying to take advantage of me. So I just need to figure out how to keep H away from me until I get out of that hell hole.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
