Oh and it just got better. It turns out the "guest" might mean I get an extra free flight. Texted SD asking her if she wants to come. If so, we watch an NBA game together after the awards thing. She's into the plan, now all I need to do is see if that free flight comes in like I hope.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
Received a text from W today asking me if I'm available for lunch. We made plans for later this week. I must say I'm surprised at how I have zero trust in this woman. I mean nothing. I halfway suspect I'll show up and receive divorce papers or some mean surprise or something.
Even the idea of R sounds technically wonderful...yet...zero trust. Maybe she wants an R, but how can that happen with a person who doesn't want your kids full time because she wants to be alone? Unattractive. Zero trust.
I suppose this will take a while.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
To be honest I know how emo this sounds but I'm not happy at the moment and it seems like I should be.
W texted me this morning concerning lunch date later this week, basically asking me if I'd like to ML instead of going to a restaurant. I didn't quite know how to respond, sent a joke instead and her response was also funny, assuming the answer was yes...I'm actually not sure I do.
Then later she asked me to reserve a hotel room near our homes. I understand why it can't be at my place, SS is there all day...but why not her place? I guess it's not entirely the point anyway.
The point is this. At this point she's someone I barely know that caused & still causes me a lot of stress. I've tried a few times to meet her and hang out, she's not interested. I thought we'd have a chance to connect and talk but she changed the plan.
There's no connection. There's no spark. There's stress, months of pain, no more friendship, I'm not a part of her life, she has no time for me and she's "not sure what she wants". If this is TMI I apologize but I don't have an easy time getting hard for her even though I still see her as smoking hot...and that adds on another ton of bad vibes I don't want to deal with.
How am I supposed to explain this?
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
Update. I responded with a question. You wanted to go to a hotel? she responds yes. If don't want, just let me know...after a few edits I simply explain I'm not really into it, no. Left it at that. If I handled it wrong, let the non-existent gods of fury slap me in the face with a pie; I don't think they've got much left they haven't done to me anyway.
There's something too more-of-the-same, my-way-or-the-highway, cake-eating about it. I just wanted to get to know her, she wants a human dildo. I'm not the man for the job right now. TMI again? Sorry. I'm losing my f-ing mind.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
I think you handled that perfectly. If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. The added benefits are that it adds mystery to you (most men probably don't turn down a woman's offer to have sex) and shows that you aren't just going to do things on her terms.
Bravo to you dude!
Me:38 W:39 No Children BD: 5/13 EA/PA Confirmed: 7/13 W Moved out 12/13
Most women think (and rightfully so) that they can control men with sex. Being turned down for sex by a man is about as much of a wake up call as a woman is going to get. Whether she is trying to keep you dangling by offering sex every so often, or this really is her way of getting reconnected to you and hoping to R, at least you recognize that it's not going to work. And now she will too.
I say high five for 2S2Q. Hold out for what you deserve, not just the crumbs your W is offering.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
Thanks for the vote of confidence, I'm cooler headed at the moment. She responded a while later with "ok then". Pretty anti climactic considering I've been racking my head all day about this LOL! I guess I did the right thing.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
It may have seemed anticlimactic, but to me anyway, saying "ok, then" indicates a feeling of rejection or offense. I am betting she is thinking, "what the hell???"
I still say, good for you. Let's see what she does next.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
