My recommendation is go if you can not have any expectations. Show your support, even if its from a distance, then leave. If you cant do that, then don't go.
What type of therapist to you have, is he/her a pro-marriage counselor? What kind of advice do you think he's giving you? If your standing for your marriage and he's giving you advice to move on, you might want to check into a different therapist. Not all therapists work towards solution-based therapy. Don't be afraid to interview him, see if your on the same page. And if not, don't be afraid to look for another. I can tell you my own nightmares in the counseling dept. It took 5. He's there to work FOR you, not against your marriage.
I'll be honest, the sponsor is from your debt thing? Is he qualified to give you advice on your marriage? I don't know, but getting different opinions from different types of professionals seems a bit like your reaching for someone to just agree with your side of the sitch. Whichever technique your going to use, wheter it be DB, your therapist or a sponsor. I'd hardly try mixing the advice. A pro-marriage counselor is more trained to see that there are two sides of the story. Your still a bit bitter at whats happening, understandable, its still raw.
Are you giving an honest assessment of the situation, or just your version? Looking for validation of the circumstances you provide without giving more of the "whole picture".
I'm still reading a lot of she did this, I cant belive she's doing that. Wheres the I need to work on this or that?
Maybe im giving bad advice, MrB is so much better with the early questioning. But honestly, your barely a warm cup of coffee into this, you have a LONG way to go before this is decided one way or the other. But your sure helping sooner along by not having some control over yourself and your emotions.
