Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[dingo]

It might but pursuing someone that treats you like dogshit makes you look desperate and causes them to lose respect for you and those is definitely not attractive. By standing up for yourself you appear confident and secure and that is attractive.

It is so hard and I still struggle with it with every interaction but you cannot accept the table scraps. It's been said a million and one times on these forums. People want what they can't have and people value what they have to work for and devalue things that are given freely. It's counterintuitive and reverse psychology and feels like you're playing a game. Remember though, the real purpose is to protect yourself.

I got all the same lines about not being intimate enough (my wife stopped taking her BC pills and decided not to tell me for a few months so there was a period of no sex). I got the 'we are best friends but not lovers' line too. WWhat I think that means is that the WAS is confusing real companion love for exciting new love. I did everything I could to change that. She wasn't at all interested and all it did was push her further away.