Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

Thinking on it more... I think it's hard for me to stop pursuing because I have this fear that if I do really act as if I'm "leting go" (which I'm not sure what that would look like beyond trying to avoid him and be gone from the house as much as possible) then he'll think "See, I knew she didn't really care, now it's obvious. We're more like roommates now than ever" - one of his complaints is that we were more like roommates than H/W. Is this an unfounded fear? I know it's counterintuitive but I could see all of this detaching/GAL as totally backfiring and just fueling his "we're not connected, like I thought" fire.