Originally Posted By: 3boyzmom
The bottom line is that my H does not add anything positive to my life.


This is a tough and important realization, 3. I don't want to speak for you, but I think we (as LBSs) tend to view our WASs as the people they used to be, or we want them to be, rather than the person they now are. And that is what we miss about them and what we want back.

I think it is great that you have a whole month of Sundays without H. It will give you (and your kids) a chance to try doing things as a family, but without H. Your kids are young enough that perhaps it will become their new normal. Either way, you will have more clarity on the situation, and therefore be better equipped to decide whether to continue family Sundays or just start switching off with your H.

Oh, I also wanted to clarify one thing. I didn't mean that you should never think about H or your sitch on your trip. I actually think that you might have a good opportunity to think about it with a little bit of distance, which will be really good. I just meant, don't let your sitch ruin your time away. Allow yourself to have fun and enjoy being in the moment. I know you will. smile


me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14