Back home, having a very hard time!!!

[tigerlily78]

Re-read what Mr. Bond said.

Tell her that you believe her, but just to set your mind at ease, you want total transparancy and that you would like to look at her phone records. Look her dead in the eye when you tell her this.

This is not telling her you ALREADY did it and know. It is saying, "Show me the evidence that you deserve my trust."

And Mr. Bond is right... she asked you back. She needs to step up and give you a reason to stay. You could have stayed gone, but you came back with the implication that you were both going to work on your M. You can't do that while she is still emotionally invested in the OW and its time to make that very clear to her. And yes, she will probably explode and maybe even over react... but you can't walk on eggshells all the time. This is a point too big to leave stewing.