My D16 is a fighter, in a good way. She's often been my model for dealing with life! She knows her Mom loves her but is also aware of Mom's limitations, if you choose to call them such. She will overcome...and she knows her Dad is always there
Well, I think Voldy must be running for the Fruit Loop Of The Year award. If she keeps it up she could be our next Mayor in Toronto! Tonight, D16 decided not to attend gymnastics as she has exams coming up. She texted her mother, who picks her up afterwards, and tells her NOT to pick her up. She then phones and leaves voice mails twice more. Voldy goes to pick her up anyway and then calls infuriated. D16 explains she texted and called twice and Voldy says "You should know I don't check my phone for messages" and then proceeds to rip a strip off her for showing lack of respect. Later she drops by the apartment and daughter has to bring something downstairs for her. She then chews out daughter for another 10 minutes in the car. Next, ten minutes later, daughter gets a lengthy text message blabbing on about disrespect and lack of appreciation for everything Voldy does for her. She then tells daughter she must call her on her work phone (which daughter had been previously told NOT to call) then tells her if she continues to show disrespect like this she will be walking home from gymnastics. Can you say WINGNUT!
You might want to hand her a screwdriver! She apparently has a few loose screws. Sorry your kids have to battle so hard to set boundaries. However, it may benefit them in the end if they run into similar people later in life.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Lol. I asked daughter what she replied to her Mom in the car and she said "I told her that she just can't admit when she's wrong and it didn't go over very well". Voldy is pissed because she has to pick up D16 three evenings per week after gymnastics at 8:30 pm. I drop daughter three nights because I get off work earlier and therefore Voldy will pick her up afterwards. This is what she wanted a number of years ago. So Voldy resents this now and anything that throws the slightest wrinkle into the operation sends her skywards. Her attitude with daughter is "you've inconvenienced me so now you're gonna pay" whether it makes any sense or not! You see, everything and everyone is supposed to revolve around Voldy. I used to run around trying to control the stresses in her life by doing more to help out and therefore save the family from her tantrums...it`s tempting to just say `that I`ll pick her up from now on, to save the kid but on the other hand...Anyway, after the lengthy text I asked D16 how she was going to reply and she said she was just going to ignore her. OK.
This stuff is crazy! I feel so bad for your daughters having to deal with that kind of stuff. Is Voldy at least remorseful later after she mulls stuff over? I can't imagine them being in that dynamic. It's good that they have you and your sane guidance.
Was she always this way?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Yup! She always takes on stressful jobs and then being a perfectionist, overdoes it and feels overwhelmed. As I said, I used to run around and do practically everything to reduce her stress and it got me a divorce lol! When she's exhausted (which is always) she becomes a wacko. Last weekend she told daughter that she wished she, Voldy, had of handled the situation differently but then proceeded to carry on about her needs blah blah blah. She feels everyone should be making her a priority at all times...even when it makes no sense. This is who she is and I can't see it changing. Life goes on.
Yup! She always takes on stressful jobs and then being a perfectionist, overdoes it and feels overwhelmed. As I said, I used to run around and do practically everything to reduce her stress and it got me a divorce lol! When she's exhausted (which is always) she becomes a wacko. She feels everyone should be making her a priority at all times...even when it makes no sense. This is who she is and I can't see it changing. Life goes on.
Of course it does ! Life goes on.. as you have seen..er.. endured.. On the flip side well.. yes. some things never.. ever change. Usually the former spouses. Hence a divorce. I wanted to say hello and check up on you.
After spending 4 hours of catching up on your threads..Your cheese is on the cracker.
