It has been a long time........ I hate that you are back here, but it is what it is.
Good stuff....I really like that you are meeting with your own IC. They are a wonderful tool in discovering what you want from life. As odd as it will sound, I also like that your H addressed what is going on with the kids. I would have preferred that you were present, but it sounds as though the kids expected it. When I threw the EX out I included the kids in that conversation. It might not be the psychologist way of doing things, but it wasn't hidden from them. They also knew it was coming, so it wasn't a hyper-emotional discussion or response from them.
I like to think of marriages like a house. First there is ourselves.....the footing of everything. If we aren't healthy and strong individually....Then we make a poor footing.
Then there is the relationship, or foundation walls. It is upon the individuals that this is built. If the footings aren't strong, than the foundation walls won't be strong.
Finally comes the kids, finances, mortgage, etc....The house. Without the foundation and footings....the house collapses like a pile of stacked cards.
Now, just like a real house, Our priorities become the house, then lower down the list the foundations walls, and finally way, way, way, down the list the footings. The strange part is that we don't realize that if the footings fail the whole house will come down. So it is time to rebuild those footings CW....and you have started to do so splendidly.
