That is a really good question T-Boned. I am really curious about that too.
About 4 nights ago mine lashed out a little and said: "WHAT? Do you WANT me to be wrong (about the OW)? You KNOW me! I would rather DIE than be wrong about anything!" (Yes, it was that dramatic)
And here it is 4 days later and we had an R chat in the kitchen and played computer games together today. It really is remarkable how he seems to be finding a lot more clarity recently, BUT there is that lingering sense that he is having a hard time coming to grips with the idea that he could have made such a big "mistake."
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."