Look what the cat dragged in! (TL) - Act 3

[tigerlily78]

T-boned, thanks for checking in on me. I am doing pretty well given the circumstances. Surprisingly well maybe?

Thanks kml for all the suggestions, I have jumped on a lot of them.

We had already cut many things back in October. No cable tv or netflix anymore, cut a bunch of features off our home phone line, etc. So we are pretty good there.

I have taken the initiative to go over shopping lists with H and checking the ads and coupons before we go... so we are both on the same page about what is being spent and roughly how much it should cost. I'm being much more strict about the meal planning, so there less waste and no big splurges if I can help it. Saving leftovers and making sure they get used, etc. H has thankfully elected to stop going out to eat like he was, so that will help tremendously.

H seems to be very appreciative and receptive of my efforts.

We have had several really good, productive talks about what OUR plans are to get through this.

I have applied for jobs aplenty... local and online. Hoping SOMETHING will come through. I also followed up with the places I applied at before at Pud's suggestion. Nothing shaking with those places at the moment, but I think I made a good impression and they will think to call me if something opens up.

This afternoon H was here even though he was supposed to be spending the day with the OW on her day off... he came in and initiated about 30 minutes of R talk. At one point he even said, "Maybe there is something wrong with me." I hope my mouth didn't hang open in shock. Clearly he hasn't made any important decisions... but now realizes I'm a really wonderful person and he can't understand why he couldn't see it for awhile.

A few days ago he invited me to start playing a computer game that he plays online as well. So I made and account and practiced. We played for awhile before dinner this evening and had a really fun time.

Monday I think it was, he even called me from Target to ask if there was anything I needed from there while he was running an errand of his own. That was VERY thoughtful and I told him so. I told him a list of the things I could think of. He ended up calling me again before he left just to make sure he hadn't forgotten any of the things I mentioned. I was really impressed.

I feel like the patience and calm under duress is paying off. He is moving a little bit toward me, and I just have to let it happen slowly. Although I must admit it is hard to keep expectations and hope in check sometimes now that he has been so much more consistent in opening up to me and making thoughtful gestures.