1) WAS will say that they're done and tell everyone in their circle that their M is over. 2) Affairs are temporary 3) Remember what MWD wrote in DR...that "believe none of what they say, but look at their actions."
This is a marathon, not a sprint. You've only been at this for almost 2 months. It took the marriage a long time to breakdown and it will take as much long to reconcile. I've been around the block here in DBland several times and I have seen that affairs do go on for several months to 1 -2 years before they fizzle out.
Don't listen to what your W and others tell you about the marriage. Just focus on you and do your own GAL activities.
Has W given you any hints and tips on where she's been unhappy? Those are important clues and make changes for YOU. You don't make changes just to win W back. She'll smell it like a shark smells blood 2 miles away. Do these changes BECAUSE you don't like what you're seeing and work on them for you.
The responsibility for the breakdown of a M is on both parties. Look at what you've contributed to the breakdown and do your part to make the changes. This is what we call 180s here.
Do you know what/which patterns you have that think could be improved on?
