maybe a bit off the edge?

[dingo]

Thanks MrBond. I did read both books and understand the importance of detachment. Its been very difficult for me to separate detachment/attachment from giving up/hope but I am working on it.

I have also evaluated my M history and have changed some of the things that I can. Unfortunately, a lot of what was missing are things that I just can't provide under the current circumstances. The thing that I can provide is space, pleasant interactions (on her terms) and non-pressuring/validating conversation when those things happen. A lot of the rest needs to happen when she re-engages me.

I admit that I am not very good about space and not pressuring/validating/rationalizing. When things get bad, i get desperate. But I am working on it and slowly improving.