Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

Last night my wife actually initiated speaking to me. She told me she paid for a protection for the desktop computer(the one I use but she has access to) but she refused to pay for the laptop (the one that she uses exclusively.) because it is way too expensive. I bought it for both of us but it was around Christmas so I wrapped it and gave to her.

I then questioned if that was virus control she said "no" I said well I will do it for both computers she said"no I can get it cheaper at the store than online" and she would put it on both herself I said ok. I asked her to do this 6 weeks ago but now that it is about to expire she is rushing around.

I then showed her mail addressed to me regarding the protection plans she got upset because she yelled at the person on the phone because she thought nothing was sent.

I apologized and said I thought I was going to do it but you did it first which is just fine.

She then said she would handle the household stuff till we are D. I steered clear of any talk about D and said "I didn't think this was a household item but sure that's fine you have been doing that stuff since the S anyway." She said "its in the house so yes it is a household item" I agreed.

I then asked about a paper shredder that we discussed last week. The one we have doesn't work she told me but when I asked if I could see it she said she tried to fix it and it doesn't work. I said ok have you found a replacement she said no because they are to expensive.

I told her about one I saw and was willing to pay for it she said no its too expensive. I didn't ask her to pitch in at all just want the shredder to clean up more of the house clutter. I have saved every bill since we bought the house.

It is time to get rid of most of them.

Anyway she says "nothing gets shredded until we can both look at it" I said "I'm just cleaning out the back room of old bills not major important stuff." She said she would not do that to me, meaning shred things without telling me. I said "I know that but I would have thought you already had what you needed" speaking indirectly about financial docs. She said maybe she wanted to look at some older stuff and repeated she wouldn't do something like that to me.

I said ok and we both left the house through separate doors and did errands.

When I was out I thought about it and text her to say I was willing to pay half for her laptop to get the protection plan. She didn't answer me. Thinking about it later I realized that maybe she wont be able to pay half because her benefits are coming to an end. Do I ask about this laptop plan again or let it go?


My problem is when she brought up D did I do what I was supposed to and avoid discussing it or should I have asked some questions regarding time frame or maybe even if she actually has retained a L?

It is situations like these that I have to react correctly. I can handle it in a calm voice but it is what do I say and how do I say it that is my problem.

I am a bit nervous that me wanting to use a shredder has forced her to think that I was trying to get rid of something important papers. This is certainly not the case.

Do I just leave it go or should I reassure her that is not what is happening .

This morning I told her I transferred some money for bills that are due soon. I also said when she is ready to pay the credit card that the protection plan is on we could discuss maybe paying extra,over the min amount due, to cover the cost of the plan. She didn't answer right away and I asked "is that acceptable to you?" she looked at me like you know I am not talking to you right? but then turned away and said "fine" in a quiet voice.

The way I handled that exchange was it correct or should I have just left it alone and she would have seen the transfer eventually.

I was just avoiding her using that money on a different bill and when I question it her being able to say "you didn't tell me what it was for so how was I to know?"